How to get over a girl??

[Blazer06]

Im stuck on this girl. I think about her all the time. Ive tried liking other girls, but they just arnt her. She has every quality i want in a women. She also has the qualities that i dont have that want. She is perfect... funny, classy, smart, beautiful... everything.

In december i thought i was over her. I lied to myself over and over... and i realize a year after i fell for her, im worse than before.

This isnt a new girl... its still sam. the sam i see almost everyday... the sam thats my best friend, that i can tell anything. the sam that understands me... the sam that is nothing more, and never can be.

either way its a double edged sword. i dont see her... i fell real low. i see her... but cant have her... i feel the same or worse. and even if i could have her by some miracle... i would be skeptic and doubtful of the whole thing.

I need to stop liking her. I dont know how... ive tried other girls, not talking to her, not seeing her.... nothing works.

I know my problem is nothing compared to the rest here... but you are the only listening ears.


Blaze

[Atomic Rooster]

One word: Time.

Sorry kiddo. There's no easy fix for a broken heart. It takes time to get over a special girl. Took me ages to get over my first love.

[pickel]

I know my problem is nothing compared to the rest here...

Find one that comes close and try to build a relationship. Suffering by yourself will only delay getting over it.

[Mickwish]

Deju vu here. And more recent than the previous Sam threads.

Tobu has a similar problem. You are not alone in this, Blaze.

Dunno what to suggest. Hate to see you lose a friend, but also hate to see you mooning about like a love-struck hound.

Talking to her is the only think I can suggest; always was my only suggestion, really.

Sorry if that's no help.

Cheers
Mick

[Whir]

Hate her.

[Mickwish]

Hate her.

Is that a personal opinion or a recommendation, Whir?



Cheers
Mick

[chipbgt]

Whatever you do, save these threads on your hard drive, so that 5 years from now you can look back and say, "wow, much ado about nothing."

cheer up. We have all had first crushes, and all of us have moved on.

[washe]

She is perfect... funny, classy, smart, beautiful... everything.

Dang..... now you try to dump her because that.....

Well dude take some time.... take a new hobbie.... it will help you stay focused on other things instead of thinking on her

[Sweet]

Take time for yourself.........

Take time to think........

Take time to understand.........

Take some time for you and understand that you must be complete and happy on your own........

Take some more time to be happy....

Take some time to cry.....

Take some time to be sad.......

Take some time to take stock of why you feel this way....

Take time and invest in yourself......

Take some time to just simply love yourself and enjoy the qualities you have.....

just take some time.....

[Warthog]

Yes, new hobby.

I work out...when I run, it clears my mind. I'm breaking my body so much that there is nothign else I can focus on. When I finish, I'm too busy thanking God that I didn't die and made it back (seriously). All of that clears my head, for at least 12-24hrs

Warthog

[jman01pa]

Reguardless of the friendship you may have, you need to distance yourself from her for your own sanity. When you are ready then date other girls for friendship (expect nothing) and see what developes. If no magic happens move on to another, then another and so on. You will eventually get over her. If you continue to associate with her then you will never get passed this. Trust me. I have spent the passed several years in your shoes.

[Hungrycookpot]

haha all of the above man, i defiantely know the feeling, there was this girl that i went snowboarding with almost every day this winter, i fell for her, and i was down for a while, but trust us, time DOES heal all wounds, and even tho shes her, and shes perfect for you, and you dont think this is true right now, there are LOTS of women out there, and theres more awesome ones than it would seem on casual inspection. Why cant you have this girl? have you told her how you feel? who knows, maybe she feels the same way? If not, you might think she is absolutely perfect for you right now, but if nothings gonna happen there, dont worry, theres always someone else, someone who actually feels the same about you, and if the person you like doesnt have that, well then they arent really perfect for you....

[Whir]

I'm really getting a kick out of the Google ads on this one.

[washe]

I'm really getting a kick out of the Google ads on this one.

[Solid Snake]

Mick is right, hate her. Nobody is perfect, this girl has a flaw that you haven't seen yet. If you want to get her out of your head, just go kamikaze on her, ask her out without fear of rejection. Either she'll go out with you which will save you the trouble of getting over her, or she'll reject you which will make you hate her and you'll decide she wasn't worth it to begin with.

[slinky]

Im stuck on this girl. I think about her all the time. Ive tried liking other girls, but they just arnt her. She has every quality i want in a women. She also has the qualities that i dont have that want. She is perfect... funny, classy, smart, beautiful... everything.

In december i thought i was over her. I lied to myself over and over... and i realize a year after i fell for her, im worse than before.

This isnt a new girl... its still sam. the sam i see almost everyday... the sam thats my best friend, that i can tell anything. the sam that understands me... the sam that is nothing more, and never can be.

either way its a double edged sword. i dont see her... i fell real low. i see her... but cant have her... i feel the same or worse. and even if i could have her by some miracle... i would be skeptic and doubtful of the whole thing.

I need to stop liking her. I dont know how... ive tried other girls, not talking to her, not seeing her.... nothing works.

I know my problem is nothing compared to the rest here... but you are the only listening ears.


Blaze

Having the same nonplus as you, Blazer, and it isn't my first love either (already tried Whir's hate a long time ago too). On my first love I only got over it after I moved.

[StealthyV]

I've found that the best way to get over a girl is not by hating her, or completely losing touch... it's finding a few memories you shared that were really the best in the relationship. keep her in mind when you're having a bad day- just think of when you two were happy together, and nothing else.

in time, your bad memories of her should fade, leaving only the good ones (the ones you've thought about most).

when I went to college in '99, I left behind my girlfriend of 6 months. she was my first. we continued to date for another two years, at a distance of 133 miles...long bus trips, phone cards...weekends together.

we decided mutually to end the relationship until we both got out of college, like my parents had, and then see where we were. well we never got back together, but every few months we talk on the phone for a few minutes. I remember only the good, can't think of anything bad.

I'm finally over her...and we haven't dated since 2001....haven't hung out in about 2 years. but a postcard here, maybe a phone call there, we still keep in touch. I know that's not a viable solution for some, where just cutting off contact is best, but this has worked for us.

she lives about 3 hours away and is still dating the guy she dated right after we split...I'm just glad to hear he's a nerd too...I can laugh when I think of her now:

Once with a nerd, always with a nerd

keep your head up, and smile! someone is wishing you'd talk to her

~Branson

[Blazer06]

Mick is right, hate her. Nobody is perfect, this girl has a flaw that you haven't seen yet. If you want to get her out of your head, just go kamikaze on her, ask her out without fear of rejection. Either she'll go out with you which will save you the trouble of getting over her, or she'll reject you which will make you hate her and you'll decide she wasn't worth it to begin with.

She has a b/f. She knows how i feel... or rather how i felt. she doesnt know how i feel right now. Its kinda harder for me... because she has one of those @sshole boyfriends that she is hurt by all the time (emotionally... leading her to physically hurt herself). and i cant do anything about it.

i try to let time take care of it... but after a year it had just made things worse. i try to look at other girls... but after the last one... (the first girl after sammy that i looked at)... she wanted to be best friends and tell me everything, and the works... but never ever anything more than that. most of the women i like want that to variing levels.

ive tried hateing her... but after a week i fall apart completely.

rejection... doesnt make me want to hate her. because she rejected me about a year ago...


Blaze

[DanGrease]

The first paragraph of your last post is a perfect example for the saying <Nice Guys Finish Last>
And I do believe this saying is true. At least in my age. This is what I suggest for you to consider:

~ Try to not think to much about your situation.
~ Start doing something else, maybe a sport or whatever hobby you want.
~ Listen to music you like, at least this helps me alot.
~ Cry when you feel the need to. Don't think its silly, because it isn't
~ Never feel sorry for yourself no matter how bad the situation is.
~ Even if it feels like you are the most unhappy guy in the world, you aren't.
~ Think about other people's problems and try to help others. It usually helps.
~ Struggle. Never give up. Just stay strong. Try to get out of the fire.

dan

[eagle1]

She is perfect... funny, classy, smart, beautiful... everything.

I have learned with time that NOBODY IS PERFECT.
That's just the way you picture her in your mind.

You are so into her that you can't think anything bad about her.
You can't think that she could cheat on her boyfriend (or on you),
you can't think that she will go out one night get drunk as hell and wake up with 3 guys, etc.

Quite frankly your mind is a mess right now and it starts to play with you.
I've been there.. not pretty Heck, I even made a song about it :P

Just take it easy ...