this is a silly question, so I'll answer myself.
multiple versions of PHP exist.
I'm running PHP 4.1.1,XPpro,IIS4.
The current version of PHP is 4.3.0.
how to update?
answers:
uninstall PHP4.1.1.
install PHP4.3.0. Hope it works.
this is what I did to get from PHP4.? to PHP4.1.1, AND the installer did not configure IIS4! no biggie, easy to do.
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install PHP4.3.0. Hope it works.
else config IIS4.
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i've checked
www.php.net in both downloads and searching entire site for "update php" and "updating php".
hoping just overwrite existing php files with new ones, maybe restart IIS?